If you wear as many hats as I do, Mom, Wife, Daughter, Friend, Business Owner, which I’m sure a lot of you Moms DO, and if you have ever felt like you were dropping the ball at EVERYTHING, even though you are giving your ALL , then I’m here to tell ya, you are not alone!
I’m not a perfect mom, wife, friend or business owner.
Sometimes I have laundry to fold, dishes to do and floors to be swept.
Sometimes the aftermath of me personalizing a gift for a client leaves my office looking like a bomb went off at Hobby Lobby. When I’m sure most others craft sesh looks more like an organized area thats straight out of a page from the Container Store or Pinterest. Oh well…
Sometimes I overflow the bath tub, grab fast food for dinner for the family, or accidentally send my daughter to school with only one ballet slipper in her dance bag.
Sometimes I miss a friends birthday dinner, take a bad day out on my husband, or let my daughter have a drink of my Sweet Tea. (Oh, heaven forbid! … Psshhttt, give me a break Judgy McJudgerson! )
Sometimes I stay up waaay too late catching up on episodes of Dance Moms that I’ve missed, only to wake up the next morning exhausted, but WITHOUT regret. With my reason being that my choices as a mom and business owner seem to stack up well… against that show at least. Lol.
Don’t get me wrong, I would love to be that Mom who poops rainbows and butterflies.
Or the mom who looks like my mini me and I are both ready to hit the Red Carpet AT ALL TIMES.
I would love to be the Mom who is never late dropping their kid off at Montessori.
But…. I’m not.
Not. Even. Close.
However, what I do know is this- a late night craft session with my daughter after a long day/week/year at work- is more important to me than a perfect kept home.
I KNOW that the death stares in the mornings from the “Perfect Moms” at her school volunteering for the 3,000th time this year- because Im late that morning because I CHOSE to take a little extra time with her that morning( You know, the important things in the morning when your kid is 3 1/2- get donuts, jam out to girl songs in the parking lot, put on matching bright coral lipstick…even though I am still in sweat pants because my first appointment that day isn’t until 10 am. Lol …) since I KNEW it was going to be a late of showings for me, which means she will be at her Montessori, right up until they closed….. THOSE judgmental stares DO irritate me and get to me a little, BUT not enough to sacrifice those precious, bonding, NEEDED moments I get to share with her, right before the daggers from the other moms start coming, trying to penetrate my Mom soul. Lol
I have enough self induced guilt being a working mom, I don’t need those catty bias trying to remind/convince me that it’s “not normal” to ENJOY pursuing a career as a woman when you have a family.
News Flash Ladies!! It’s 2016! Might wanna start getting a little something something going of your own 😉
I love my daughter, husband, family, friends and JOB.
I wish I were PERFECT at all of the above. But, I’m not. Can’t Be. Won’t Be. It’s Not HUMANLY Possible To Be!
There’s simply not enough of me to go around- and welp, since I love my life and the people and obligations in it, I guess my “to do list” won’t be getting shorter anytime soon.
Therefore, the next time my super power, self filling, multi-tasking mom well runs dry-I will be cutting myself a break! And I recommend you start doing the same for yourself!
Sure there are days where my house looks awesome and my kid gets to school on time- looking presentable as heck.
There are some nights we share a uninterrupted family dinner without a business call.
Or the few and far in between days when I complete all of the days tasks that were required of me- plus have some time to spare to get a jump on the next days agenda. (These days are AWESOME. And I feel should 100% be recognized by anyone in my general vicinity- aka- my husband better vocally say how great and appreciated I am… but these self righteous days also lead me to a false self confidence that I have the ability (time) to take on even MORE duties, but hey, it’s all good! lol)
BUT…. from now on, on the days that don’t resemble an episode of Leave it to Beaver- I’m going to choose to NOT beat myself down.
So long as my clients still trust me with their business- my daughter, husband, family and friends FEEL loved by me, we all three have clean undies to wear the next day and full bellies going to bed…..then everything else can suck it!
There’s always tomorrow for me to wash, lather and repeat- trying to be PERFECT!
P.S. if you relate to this and haven’t seen the movie Bad Moms yet, it’s a must. Like tonight- after you happily and willingly run yourself ragged of course. 🙂